Thursday, December 3, 2009

Where did that come from?

Someone on a public forum just asked the question (after trying for six cycles to get pregnant), "How do you keep the hope?"

Before I knew it, my fingers were typing something and this is what came out:

Here's the deal. Whether it takes one month or eleven, a simple roll in the hay or invasive medical procedures, most women who want to will get to be a mother eventually.

Personally, I try to remind myself that I would like there to be some of "me" left by the time I get there. If I'm only about TTC, or my infertility, and I let my other interests and relationships die, who will be left to be a mother if and when that time comes?

It's easier said than done, but you have to remain yourself and not let this process take over your life. It is but one aspect of who you are.

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I don't know where that came from, but I'm glad it did. As soon as I typed it I realized that I needed to hear that exact message.

And I'm glad I'm going to be busy being me this weekend. It's nice to feel normal again.

6 comments:

Shannon said...

I love when you give advice to someone and realize that you need it just as much as them. (although dont get me started on the six cycles. I will scream)

I am glad you get to spend the weekend just being you because YOU are pretty darn great!

LOVEDBYD said...

Well said....even I needed to hear that! Enjoy your weekend being YOU!

Mary said...

This is FANTASTIC advice. And, ditto Shannon on the sex cycles. Blech. Don't get me wrong - I'm happy for anyone who does become pregnant, but the sting of way too many cycles still remains.

(hugs) to you, my love. I'm always here if you need a shoulder or an ear.

Elisa said...

::standing ovation::

Sarah said...

Hey honeybuns, that is a great message, and I'm glad it booster your thoughts as well.

I love you and I'm praying so hard for you!

Sarah said...

Oh, and how did no one call Mary out that she said "sex" cycles?